I was at a gathering recently with a woman, Margo, and her four nieces, who ranged in age from about 20 – 31.
When I asked Margo about the young women, her only comments referred to their weights. I learned that the eldest was thin before a terrible accident that landed in her a wheelchair for months on end. And she still battles chronic pain. But “wouldn’t it be great if she could lose the weight?”
Margo told me about the middle two girls – both very thin once but now getting bigger. She worried that they’d keep gaining. Why couldn’t they just get back to their old weights? And the youngest, still ‘thin’, but of course, Margo worried that she’d start gaining weight too.
To me, it was a truly odd and very unfortunate conversation, but I bet many people wouldn’t think it was at all.
What I now know about these four young women (from a family friend) is this; the oldest, Lizzie, is a veternarian who also volunteers her services at an animal shelter. The second child, Justine, is a an engineer who spends most of her free time traveling the world. Maggie, the third kid, is earning a PhD in psychology and helps care for their aging grandmother. And Jenny, the baby, is in college and doing very well.
May I also add that they were all very friendly and seemed happy and well. The four laughed endlessly together. Apparently, they’re the best friends, get along spectacularly with their parents and adore all their many animals. (As a side note, all four are very very pretty towheads.)
Isn’t that enough? Do they have to be ‘thin’?